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Don’t Marry Until You’re Older Than Fifty

Man or woman, until you’re about fifty, you’re not fully developed into the person you will some day be.  Marrying in one’s twenties and thirties seems like it’s quite old enough and mature enough to settle down and share life with another person.

It’s likely that people who have gained a higher education and acquired a profession are pretty well set as to who they will be and how they will live.  However, some people have a more adventurous nature, and spend their time learning life, working various jobs, traveling, dating a variety of partners, and generally learning who they are and deciding how they plan to live.

The problems in a relationship arise when a couple, married in their twenties, find that they had not yet fully developed into the people into whom they will evolve.  A salesman might become a technician.  A retailer might become an artist.  A production manager might become an engineer.  There is a huge variety of ways that people can make their ways in life.  Until one is fairly well on in life, one might not yet be the person they are yet to become.

A man might marry a woman to enjoy her as a wife and mother to his children.  If she was to become a bank manager in her forties, he is suddenly without the partner he expected.  A woman might marry a mechanic, and enjoy having him run his shop out behind the family home.  If he becomes a traveling salesman, the woman is suddenly in a situation for which she was never prepared.

The natural, evolutionary changes of a person’s life can bring about changes that will severely damage a marriage.  After the age of fifty, however, man and woman are very likely to be well settled in their personae, and experienced sufficiently to know the characteristics of a partner that will be best suited to them in a married life together.

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  1. Michael
    October 10, 2011 at 9:20 am

    I see your point. Getting married at a more mature age does offers its pros. Good post and worthy of consideration.

  2. October 9, 2011 at 1:34 am

    I’m still in my 20’s and don’t plan on getting married at all. However, in my 50’s, I could see it. Good post, good idea.

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